Welcome to Lebanon!

My friend Aline greeted me at the airport this afternoon with a big hug and immediately asked me if I had heard the news. After a frenzy of packing in The Hague and many hours of travel and transit, the last thing on my mind was the news. Apparently there was a big bomb blast in one of Beirut’s Christian suburbs, which killed the army successor of the potential new president. Lebanon has been stuck in a political impasse for weeks, unable to come to a compromise and select a new president—and this attack has pushed any imminent solution out of reach.

While it certainly unsettled me, the bombing didn’t really scare me. The sense I am getting from most Lebanese people I have talked to today is that they are saddened by the assassination, but ultimately blasé as these types of things have been happening with regularity for nearly 2 years. More than once, they simply said, “welcome to Lebanon!” Others told me that the bombs are well targeted, killing the intended victim and the people in his immediate entourage. They are not random suicide bombings in which the maximum civilian casualties are sought like in Iraq. I am not sure how comforting this line of reasoning is, but I did decide to come here knowing that the security situation is unstable. I don’t feel like it’s completely out of control, though I will remain cautious during my short placement here.

Ciao Nederland!

I can’t believe today is my last day in The Hague. I know it sounds terribly cliché but my placement here really has gone by in a flash… Despite being a disappointment professionally, I loved my time in the Netherlands. There's something about life here that is uncomplicated, simple, easy... and yes, rather wet and rainy. Ultimately though, I'll walk away from this placement with new lifelong friendships and a healthy appreciation for the dangers of cycling while intoxicated.

I’ve spent a lot of time over the past few weeks trying to take advantage of my time here as much as possible, as well as preparing for my next placements.
After months of tearing my hair out in frustration and almost abandoning this placement in Thailand altogether, I have not one but two offers from host organizations. The first was a total leap of faith as I randomly emailed the director of the Center for Human Rights and Peace Studies at Mahidol University, who immediately got back to me saying he'd be happy to host me. As another last ditch effort, I had searched the Smith Alum database and contacted the 15 or so Smith alums who live in Thailand. Thanks to their networks and outreach, I now have a possible placement at the King Prajadhipok Institute Center for Peace and Governance. I am setting up phone calls with them for next week to figure out the details--hopefully I can figure out a way to work with both!

Role Reversal

Very powerful South African advert

BeNeLux (sans Lux)

This weekend, Justin (who is visiting the 'Low Countries' for a long weekend from Boston) and I ventured down to Brussels, just a quick 2-hour train ride from The Hague. Surprisingly Belgium did not seem on-the-brink-of-revolution-and-collapse as the media has portrayed it. In fact, it was lovely—charming and quaint like the Netherlands, but warmer, especially with the seasonal holiday cheer around the Christmas markets.
I did a little Christmas shopping for my family and indulged in the culinary specialties of the city: ‘moules frites’ (steamed mussels served with French fries) and ‘gauffres au sucre’ (classic Belgian waffles with powdered sugar). Not only was I infused with holiday spirit, but I was also particularly happy to be back in a French-speaking city. It reinforced a growing realization of how distant I sometimes feel from my French side and how much I really do want to go and live in France again next year.

"Six to Eight Black Men"

David Sedaris brakes down Dutch Christmas traditions...

I've never been much for guidebooks, so when trying to get my bearings in a strange American city, I normally start by asking the cabdriver or hotel clerk some silly question regarding the latest census figures. I say silly because I don't really care how many people live in Olympia, Washington, or Columbus, Ohio. They're nice enough places, but the numbers mean nothing to me. My second question might have to do with average annual rainfall, which, again, doesn't tell me anything about the people who have chosen to call this place home.

What really interests me are the local gun laws. Can I carry a concealed weapon, and if so, under what circumstances? What's the waiting period for a tommy gun? Could I buy a Glock 17 if I were recently divorced or fired from my job? I've learned from experience that it's best to lead into this subject as delicately as possible, especially if you and the local citizen are alone and enclosed in a relatively small space. Bide your time, though, and you can walk away with some excellent stories. I've heard, for example, that the blind can legally hunt in both Texas and Michigan. They must be accompanied by a sighted companion, but still, it seems a bit risky. You wouldn't want a blind person driving a car or piloting a plane, so why hand him a rifle? What sense does that make? I ask about guns not because I want one of my own but because the answers vary so widely from state to state. In a country that's become so homogenous, I'm reassured by these last touches of regionalism.

Guns aren't really an issue in Europe, so when I'm traveling abroad, my first question usually relates to barnyard animals. "What do your roosters say?" is a good icebreaker, as every country has its own unique interpretation. In Germany, where dogs bark "vow vow" and both the frog and the duck say "quack," the rooster greets the dawn with a hearty "kik-a-ricki." Greek roosters crow "kiri-a-kee," and in France they scream "coco-rico," which sounds like one of those horrible premixed cocktails with a pirate on the label. When told that an American rooster says "cock-a-doodle-doo," my hosts look at me with disbelief and pity.

"When do you open your Christmas presents?" is another good conversation starter, as it explains a lot about national character. People who traditionally open gifts on Christmas Eve seem a bit more pious and family oriented than those who wait until Christmas morning. They go to mass, open presents, eat a late meal, return to church the following morning, and devote the rest of the day to eating another big meal. Gifts are generally reserved for children, and the parents tend not to go overboard. It's nothing I'd want for myself, but I suppose it's fine for those who prefer food and family to things of real value.

In France and Germany, gifts are exchanged on Christmas Eve, while in Holland the children receive presents on December 5, in celebration of Saint Nicholas Day. It sounded sort of quaint until I spoke to a man named Oscar, who filled me in on a few of the details as we walked from my hotel to the Amsterdam train station.
Unlike the jolly, obese American Santa, Saint Nicholas is painfully thin and dresses not unlike the pope, topping his robes with a tall hat resembling an embroidered tea cozy. The outfit, I was told, is a carryover from his former career, when he served as a bishop in Turkey.

One doesn't want to be too much of a cultural chauvinist, but this seemed completely wrong to me. For starters, Santa didn't use to do anything. He's not retired, and, more important, he has nothing to do with Turkey. The climate's all wrong, and people wouldn't appreciate him. When asked how he got from Turkey to the North Pole, Oscar told me with complete conviction that Saint Nicholas currently resides in Spain, which again is simply not true. While he could probably live wherever he wanted, Santa chose the North Pole specifically because it is harsh and isolated. No one can spy on him, and he doesn't have to worry about people coming to the door. Anyone can come to the door in Spain, and in that outfit, he'd most certainly be recognized. On top of that, aside from a few pleasantries, Santa doesn't speak Spanish. He knows enough to get by, but he's not fluent, and he certainly doesn't eat tapas.

While our Santa flies on a sled, Saint Nicholas arrives by boat and then transfers to a white horse. The event is televised, and great crowds gather at the waterfront to greet him. I'm not sure if there's a set date, but he generally docks in late November and spends a few weeks hanging out and asking people what they want.

"Is it just him alone?" I asked. "Or does he come with some backup?"

Oscar's English was close to perfect, but he seemed thrown by a term normally reserved for police reinforcement.

"Helpers," I said. "Does he have any elves?"

Maybe I'm just overly sensitive, but I couldn't help but feel personally insulted when Oscar denounced the very idea as grotesque and unrealistic. "Elves," he said. "They're just so silly."
The words silly and unrealistic were redefined when I learned that Saint Nicholas travels with what was consistently described as "six to eight black men." I asked several Dutch people to narrow it down, but none of them could give me an exact number. It was always "six to eight," which seems strange, seeing as they've had hundreds of years to get a decent count.

The six to eight black men were characterized as personal slaves until the mid-fifties, when the political climate changed and it was decided that instead of being slaves they were just good friends. I think history has proven that something usually comes between slavery and friendship, a period of time marked not by cookies and quiet times beside the fire but by bloodshed and mutual hostility. They have such violence in Holland, but rather than duking it out among themselves, Santa and his former slaves decided to take it out on the public. In the early years, if a child was naughty, Saint Nicholas and the six to eight black men would beat him with what Oscar described as "the small branch of a tree."

"A switch?"
"Yes," he said. "That's it. They'd kick him and beat him -with a switch. Then, if the youngster was really bad, they'd put him in a sack and take him back to Spain."
"Saint Nicholas would kick you?"
"Well, not anymore," Oscar said. "Now he just pretends to kick you."
"And the six to eight black men?"
"Them, too."

He considered this to be progressive, but in a way I think it's almost more perverse than the original punishment. "I'm going to hurt you, but not really." How many times have we fallen for that line? The fake slap invariably makes contact, adding the elements of shock and betrayal to what had previously been plain, old-fashioned fear. What kind of Santa spends his time pretending to kick people before stuffing them into a canvas sack? Then, of course, you've got the six to eight former slaves who could potentially go off at any moment. This, I think, is the greatest difference between us and the Dutch. While a certain segment of our population might be perfectly happy with the arrangement, if you told the average white American that six to eight nameless black men would be sneaking into his house in the middle of the night, he would barricade the doors and arm himself with whatever he could get his hands on. "Six to eight, did you say?"

In the years before central heating, Dutch children would leave their shoes by the fireplace, the promise being that unless they planned to beat you, kick you, or stuff you into a sack, Saint Nicholas and the six to eight black men would fill your clogs with presents. Aside from the threats of violence and kidnapping, it's not much different from hanging your stockings from the mantel. Now that so few people have a working fireplace, Dutch children are instructed to leave their shoes beside the radiator, furnace, or space heater. Saint Nicholas and the six to eight black men arrive on horses, which jump from the yard onto the roof. At this point, I guess, they either jump back down and use the door, or they stay put and vaporize through the pipes and electrical wires. Oscar wasn't too clear about the particulars, but, really, who can blame him? We have the same problem with our Santa. He's supposed to use the chimney, but if you don't have one, he still manages to come through. It's best not to think about it too hard.

While eight flying reindeer are a hard pill to swallow, our Christmas story remains relatively simple. Santa lives with his wife in a remote polar village and spends one night a year traveling around the world. If you're bad, he leaves you coal. If you're good and live in America, he'll give you just about anything you want. We tell our children to be good and send them off to bed, where they lie awake, anticipating their great bounty. A Dutch parent has a decidedly hairier story to relate, telling his children, "Listen, you might want to pack a few of your things together before you go to bed. The former bishop from Turkey will be coming along with six to eight black men. They might put some candy in your shoes, they might stuff you in a sack and take you to Spain, or they might just pretend to kick you. We don't know for sure, but we want you to be prepared."

This is the reward for living in Holland. As a child you get to hear this story, and as an adult you get to turn around and repeat it. As an added bonus, the government has thrown in legalized drugs and prostitution--so what's not to love about being Dutch?
Oscar finished his story just as we arrived at the station. He was a polite and interesting guy--very good company--but when he offered to wait until my train arrived, I begged off, saying I had some calls to make. Sitting alone in the vast terminal, surrounded by other polite, seemingly interesting Dutch people, I couldn't help but feel second-rate. Yes, it was a small country, but it had six to eight black men and a really good bedtime story. Being a fairly competitive person, I felt jealous, then bitter, and was edging toward hostile when I remembered the blind hunter tramping off into the Michigan forest. He might bag a deer, or he might happily shoot his sighted companion in the stomach. He may find his way back to the car, or he may wander around for a week or two before stumbling through your front door. We don't know for sure, but in pinning that license to his chest, he inspires the sort of narrative that ultimately makes me proud to be an American.

Zwarte Piet

I arrived back in The Hague on Friday morning. I was away for just under two weeks, but it felt like two months in “Hague time,” a strangely accelerated reality like Narnia. Upon returning, I was not only greeted by a group of friends, but also by parade of men in blackface dressed up in colorful troubadour-like costumes.

Yes, it was exactly as strange as it sounds. But then I remembered reading something in former Fellow Jared’s journal from last year about this strange Dutch holiday tradition. In order to better understand its meaning and history, I did a little research on the internet and talked to some of my Dutch friends. There were even some heated debates over the weekend about the racist connotations of blackface and its influence on race relations in the Netherlands. In the end though, I found myself shelving the academic debate and just enjoying the festive mood of this unique celebration.

On the banks of the Danube

Yesterday was the last day of the 40-hour mediation training. Despite the challenges of translation and the judges’ busy schedules (several of them couldn’t commit to the entire 40-hours and had to come in and out), I think it went very well. In our evaluation and group debrief, they all expressed surprise and delight at how much they had learned and progressed in the short time of the training. However, for most, this was just an introductory training and I am aware of how important it is to keep these skills up. Hopefully, despite USAID leaving Croatia, there will be a way to continue training and expand mediation training across this aspiring European nation.

Rebecca and Gaby left early this morning but Ericka and I have a couple of days left in Croatia. Thanks to this extra time, Ericka and the US Embassy team were able to organize another short mediation training session, this time in Vukovar. We drove from Zagreb to Vukovar this afternoon, a short 3 hour trip across to country to the border with Serbia.

Situated on the banks of the Danube, Vukovar is a fascinating city. Hotly contested during the war with Serbia, it was essentially razed by continuous bombardment. However, unlike Dubrovnik, which experienced similar destruction, most of Vukovar has not yet been rebuilt. The scars of the war are visible on every street. Bullet holes pockmark facades. Chunks of the sidewalk are missing where mortars landed. Buildings are empty hollow shells, no windows, no doors, no roofs. Minefields still surround part of the city.

But the scars are beginning to fade. New investment is pouring in and the minefields are being cleared. Next to bombed out old buildings stand modern sleek shopping centers, hotels, a contemporary courthouse, and a new judges club. It was in this clubhouse that Ericka gave a brief presentation this evening. The judges here were just as eager to learn about mediation as the judges in Zagreb. Having experienced the worst of the war, they are all too aware of the importance of introducing a new culture of dispute resolution in Croatia.

Escape to the Dalmatian Coast

This weekend offered us a much-needed break from the hectic mediation training schedule. Rebecca, Ericka, Gaby and I decided to escape dreary, grey, and cold Zagreb and go explore the famed Dalmatian coastline. On Saturday, Gaby and Ericka rented a car and we drove across the Southern Alps over to Split. Appropriately enough, we parted ways there, and Rebecca and I continued on our journey south to Dubrovnik. We had some time before our flight so we explored the historic old centre of Split, where Diocletian, one of the late Roman emperors, built his retirement palace. In the middle of the palace ruins, stands the Split cathedral, the tower of which Rebecca and I decided to climb. About halfway up the 180-step ascent, my vertigo kicked in but Rebecca pushed me onwards and upwards and I made it to the top. The view over the harbor and city were magnificent, particularly since it was nearly sunset.

We arrived in Dubrovnik in the late evening but managed to muster up the energy to walk around the fortified town centre. The town was heavily bombarded during the war with Serbia, but since independence, it has been beautifully restored. In fact, it was so well-lit and clean that it felt a little bit like a Disney version of a fortified medieval city. Even in the low season, the town felt busy and many shops were open late to accommodate the many American and Japanese tour groups.

The next morning, Rebecca and I embarked on the long 2km walk around the ramparts. The views over the sea were spectacular and we left Dubrovnik reluctantly at the end of the afternoon:

Zagreb

The training today was exhausting. We were in the same conference room in the court for nearly eight hours, under the harsh fluorescent lights. But it was very interesting. Most of the time, I was just watching and listening to Ericka and Gaby teach. It a useful refresher in mediation skills and I even brushed up on my facilitation skills—and not only as a spectator! Ericka and Gaby asked me introduce one of the mediation exercises so I was able to participate in the training as a facilitator, even if it was just for a few minutes. The added challenge of the simultaneous translation forced me to slow down, which was very useful since one of my flaws as a facilitator is my tendency to speak too quickly.

This evening, after a full day of training, I bought a small paper cone of hot roasted chestnuts and took a long walk around Zagreb. I strolled along the cobblestone streets without a map, just guided by my curiosity and desire to experience the city. I came upon a path leading uphill and decided to follow it. After a steep climb, I stumbled upon the historic centre of Zagreb. Perched on a hill, old Zagreb offered striking views over the new part of the city. From this perspective, the city looked sprawling but still somehow quaint, despite the ugly billboards and austere Soviet architecture that dominated parts of downtown.

Mediation Training in Croatia

Having spent the past month feeling rather distant from the Insight staff in Boston, it is fortuitous timing that I should now find myself in Croatia assisting on a mediation training program. This opportunity came up during the summer thanks to Ericka Gray, who trained us in facilitation and mediation. She and Gabrielle Gropman, the former administrator of the Harvard Mediation Program, are working together with USAID and World Learning to train Croatian judges in mediation—a dispute resolution practice that is newly being introduced to the Croatian judiciary system.

Ericka brought up the possibility of the Fellows joining her as assistants during this training in Croatia and it all came together about a month ago. I arrived last night and met Rebecca at the hotel (Seisei unfortunately couldn't make it up from Kenya). We hadn't seen each other in two months and it was great to chat and catch up.

The main challenge we faced today was dealing with the simultaneous translation. Since most of the judges speak only a little English, we all wear headsets and have to deal with lags in translation, issues with the equipment, and remembering to speak very slowly to allow the translators enough time to keep up. Hopefully this won’t be too much of an impediment to the success of the training as a whole.

This morning we were up bright and early for a preparatory breakfast meeting with Ericka and Gaby, whom I was meeting in person for the first time. As we walked over to the Commercial Court building down the street, I was a bit nervous, and then I was really nervous when we arrived and we greeted by a group of 25 senior judges. But they were terribly warm and welcoming, and very excited about the training which got off to a great start. Rebecca and I mainly just assisted Ericka and Gaby—though our acting ‘skills’ were called upon for several short mediation demonstrations.